Choosing a Marriage Partner in Islam

"Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity."(Quran 24:26)

Marriage is a relationship where each matrimonial partner should be able to fulfill his/her responsibility to religion and society equally.  They should share the common goal of building a well-integrated Muslim community and be able to work harmoniously towards it. Marriage is one of the most highly recommended acts in Islam.

 

The Holy Prophet of Islam (PBUH) says “The person who marries, safeguards half of his religion.” He (PBUH) also assured the bounty of Allah to those who wish to get married and live a pure and clean life. "Three groups of people Allah obliged Himself to help them: Mujahid in the cause of Allah, a worker to pay his debt, and the one who wants to marry to live a chaste life". (Tirmidhi)

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) recommended Muslims to select those partners who are best in religion (Deen) and character. He said: "A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character), so marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper."(Bukari and Muslim)

Islam has given freedom of choice to those who wish to get married. The mutual choice of the bride and groom to be is given the highest consideration.  Islam does not allow anyone to be forced into a marriage. Since a marriage is a union between two people and their families, it is important for parents to understand the needs of their children and allow them to be with suitable spouses of their choice. Furthermore Islam also gives the permission to look at the women whom a man intends to marry. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: "When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so." (Abu Dawood)